Yes, I'm back after a long lull.
My belief in God and me has doubled during these days.
I must thank all my frenz who had been with me during these troubled days - special mention to my Catalyst - pal.
Thank u pals, u can see ur Max back to action again.
Tomorrow happens to be an important day in my life - a fresh lease of life for me !
I promise to make maximum use of it.
As they say - Men will come and Men'll go but the Max will return forever.
Thats me , a firm believer of NO-LOSER.
Sunday, May 01, 2005
Wednesday, February 16, 2005
What Men Want
This is actually an excerpt from a mail sent by my friend,
Gals no offence meant.
Here it goes,
1. Men want a fun and exciting (female) companion.
2. Men want great sex (consistent, frequent, and passionate lovemaking score high with men).
3. Men want to share meals with their woman companion (especially when she cooks for him).
4. Men want you to support them in their work and boost their confidence.
5. Men want you to look great, keep in shape, and express confidence about your body.
6. Men want you to listen to them and treat them with respect.
7. Men need private time, to unwind, to engage in sports and hobbies, and to spend time with other men.
Women: in case you're not very thrilled with this list, Why is this? Because men are more like dogs, women more like cats. However, if you put a weighted scale on it, you'd find more VALUE placed on each guideline .
So, if you want to improve your relationship with the man you love or want to love, then try these guidelines and see how they work for your relationship improvement results.
1. Men want a fun and exciting companion. There are things that a man will discuss with a woman if the level of communication and trust has been established. Sharing activities can also be a healthy way to build relationships. If women spend more time with men sharing some activities each week they are likely to get along better with the men in their lives.
2. Men want consistent, frequent, passionate sex. Men get turned on by different things that a woman does. A woman wants to know she's "the only one he loves" and that he digs her. A man wants his partner to be a bit of a lusty animal in bed - thus the high subscription rate among men to Playboy and Penthouse. (Note: the top 2 subscriptions among men are Playboy and Penthouse, the top for women is Ladies Home Journal and Better Homes & Garden). A woman that delivers in the bedroom will, more often than not, get what she wants from her man - a dedicated lover. A woman who is more vocal in bed, and carries the attitude that goes with it, is likely to get a lot back from her man, as well. On the other hand, a woman who is frigid and uses sex as a manipulation tool is likely to receive games right back. The main thing isn't so much experimentation though - please don't take this the wrong way. It is about creativity, bonding, and emotional intimacy. Men bond through being physically connected. The act of making love is how a man feels that you love him. Withhold this, and you are withholding your love, to a man. Men want to connect with the physical act, because the act of release during sex is how a man most feels connected to you. It is the "feeling of being connected" he most seeks.
By the way, some men living by their animal instinct or Ego's rules enjoy the conquest. We can help curb this tendency by being aware and learning as much as possible about each other prior to becoming physical. Women can help improve their sexual relationships by offering some spice and also helping men understand the importance of romance, ambience, and setting a good mood (thus helping her meet her own need to "heat-up" first).
3. Men want to share meals with you, especially when you prepare the meal. I personally enjoy cooking a meal together and going out and enjoying a nice meal together. Just as much as I do not expect a woman to cook every meal for us, I also appreciate it when she does. It is also nice when a woman appreciates when her man cooks for her. Women who share their meals with their partner are improving the quality time they spend together and building a better bond. A man who expects his woman to cook every meal might improve his relationship by offering to clean-up dishes or surprising his woman with a home-cooked meal of his own. Many men just take their women out to dinner to show their appreciation (thus, the reason Mother's Day brunches are so expensive!). Communication about the importance of cooperation and sharing of all aspects of the meal can help improve problems in this area.
4. Men want you to support them in their work and help boost their confidence. Note: Women who understand men do not put them down. Women who understand this ask men questions about their career and let them know "you can do it, baby!" In return, women will find their man equally supportive because she understands him and does things to let him know she's a believer. Call it a case of mutual admiration.
5. Men want you to look great. Some women call this the "trophy" mentality. Just go to a sporting event (like a football game or baseball game) and check out the player's wives and girlfriends. They are often quite nice looking with top-shape bodies. Of course, many of these women are also attracted to the "star" image or athlete's physical body. Looking great does not mean you have to look like these people. I point them out because of society's status, but please consider our perspective of how we look more important than a societal viewpoint of what looks best. Certainly, watching weight, eating and drinking healthy food and water, and working out a few times a week also has benefits to our own emotional, mental, physical and spiritual health. It is important to love our body. When we love our body, why shouldn't our partner love it, too? Even if you are "working on it," sending loving thoughts to your body will help you achieve physical goals and happiness more than sending out negative thoughts. Our confidence is attractive to most people, and it counts in looks, too. Confidence is sexy. And men love sexy women. Why did Marilyn Monroe have such popularity? Because she was sexy. So, do your best to look great, stay in shape, dress attractively, and display a confident and sexy attitude. Watch how much more attention you'll receive from the man in your life.
6. Men want you to listen to them and treat them with respect. I've recently heard a woman say that she felt men were not respecting her, but then a few moments later used the phrase "well you men ..." in her speech. This indicates a tendency towards negatively judging men. Sometimes, we get back what we give out, and what we say to each other DOES matter. Instead, when we give love, kindness, and respect, we will experience the law of abundance in action. Men listen differently than women do. Women tend to nod their head and make comments, such as "ah, uh-huh, wow, yes, right" during conversation to indicate they are listening and involved. Men tend to listen like a wall, quietly observing until the other person finishes their statement. Being sensitive to this difference in how men and women communicate (and adapting, as appropriate) will improve communication between partners.
7. Men need you to give them private time to be left alone, to spend on hobbies and sports, and to spend time with other men. Some men need a few minutes to unwind when they walk in the door before sharing the day's challenges. Some women need this space, too, but I've noticed that most women I've dated prefer to launch into the daily review, while I'd really just like a hug, a kiss, and then some quiet space for a few minutes to unwind prior to reviewing the day together. Do what works best for your relationship. I find that a sincere and compassionately deep hug upon greeting is nice, followed by a thirty-second kiss sometime in the next few minutes, helps re-establish that "connected" feeling. Did I just say 30 second kiss? Yes, I did. Why? Because a peck kiss does nothing to establish nor maintain romance. It requires a longer kiss to do that. So, use your kissing to your advantage and keep the passion alive between you!
I remember a friend telling me about his girlfriend, how she tried to be his "Ms. Right" by becoming the woman he wanted, rather than developing some interests of her own. Perhaps, she'd be married to this man, today, had she simply had some of her own interests and creating abudant living in her own life. It can also be valuable to take time apart, once in a while, to reinforce and remind each other of your bond that hold you together. Perhaps, by not spending too much time together, one may realize why someone coined the phrase "absence makes the heart grow fonder."
Gals no offence meant.
Here it goes,
1. Men want a fun and exciting (female) companion.
2. Men want great sex (consistent, frequent, and passionate lovemaking score high with men).
3. Men want to share meals with their woman companion (especially when she cooks for him).
4. Men want you to support them in their work and boost their confidence.
5. Men want you to look great, keep in shape, and express confidence about your body.
6. Men want you to listen to them and treat them with respect.
7. Men need private time, to unwind, to engage in sports and hobbies, and to spend time with other men.
Women: in case you're not very thrilled with this list, Why is this? Because men are more like dogs, women more like cats. However, if you put a weighted scale on it, you'd find more VALUE placed on each guideline .
So, if you want to improve your relationship with the man you love or want to love, then try these guidelines and see how they work for your relationship improvement results.
1. Men want a fun and exciting companion. There are things that a man will discuss with a woman if the level of communication and trust has been established. Sharing activities can also be a healthy way to build relationships. If women spend more time with men sharing some activities each week they are likely to get along better with the men in their lives.
2. Men want consistent, frequent, passionate sex. Men get turned on by different things that a woman does. A woman wants to know she's "the only one he loves" and that he digs her. A man wants his partner to be a bit of a lusty animal in bed - thus the high subscription rate among men to Playboy and Penthouse. (Note: the top 2 subscriptions among men are Playboy and Penthouse, the top for women is Ladies Home Journal and Better Homes & Garden). A woman that delivers in the bedroom will, more often than not, get what she wants from her man - a dedicated lover. A woman who is more vocal in bed, and carries the attitude that goes with it, is likely to get a lot back from her man, as well. On the other hand, a woman who is frigid and uses sex as a manipulation tool is likely to receive games right back. The main thing isn't so much experimentation though - please don't take this the wrong way. It is about creativity, bonding, and emotional intimacy. Men bond through being physically connected. The act of making love is how a man feels that you love him. Withhold this, and you are withholding your love, to a man. Men want to connect with the physical act, because the act of release during sex is how a man most feels connected to you. It is the "feeling of being connected" he most seeks.
By the way, some men living by their animal instinct or Ego's rules enjoy the conquest. We can help curb this tendency by being aware and learning as much as possible about each other prior to becoming physical. Women can help improve their sexual relationships by offering some spice and also helping men understand the importance of romance, ambience, and setting a good mood (thus helping her meet her own need to "heat-up" first).
3. Men want to share meals with you, especially when you prepare the meal. I personally enjoy cooking a meal together and going out and enjoying a nice meal together. Just as much as I do not expect a woman to cook every meal for us, I also appreciate it when she does. It is also nice when a woman appreciates when her man cooks for her. Women who share their meals with their partner are improving the quality time they spend together and building a better bond. A man who expects his woman to cook every meal might improve his relationship by offering to clean-up dishes or surprising his woman with a home-cooked meal of his own. Many men just take their women out to dinner to show their appreciation (thus, the reason Mother's Day brunches are so expensive!). Communication about the importance of cooperation and sharing of all aspects of the meal can help improve problems in this area.
4. Men want you to support them in their work and help boost their confidence. Note: Women who understand men do not put them down. Women who understand this ask men questions about their career and let them know "you can do it, baby!" In return, women will find their man equally supportive because she understands him and does things to let him know she's a believer. Call it a case of mutual admiration.
5. Men want you to look great. Some women call this the "trophy" mentality. Just go to a sporting event (like a football game or baseball game) and check out the player's wives and girlfriends. They are often quite nice looking with top-shape bodies. Of course, many of these women are also attracted to the "star" image or athlete's physical body. Looking great does not mean you have to look like these people. I point them out because of society's status, but please consider our perspective of how we look more important than a societal viewpoint of what looks best. Certainly, watching weight, eating and drinking healthy food and water, and working out a few times a week also has benefits to our own emotional, mental, physical and spiritual health. It is important to love our body. When we love our body, why shouldn't our partner love it, too? Even if you are "working on it," sending loving thoughts to your body will help you achieve physical goals and happiness more than sending out negative thoughts. Our confidence is attractive to most people, and it counts in looks, too. Confidence is sexy. And men love sexy women. Why did Marilyn Monroe have such popularity? Because she was sexy. So, do your best to look great, stay in shape, dress attractively, and display a confident and sexy attitude. Watch how much more attention you'll receive from the man in your life.
6. Men want you to listen to them and treat them with respect. I've recently heard a woman say that she felt men were not respecting her, but then a few moments later used the phrase "well you men ..." in her speech. This indicates a tendency towards negatively judging men. Sometimes, we get back what we give out, and what we say to each other DOES matter. Instead, when we give love, kindness, and respect, we will experience the law of abundance in action. Men listen differently than women do. Women tend to nod their head and make comments, such as "ah, uh-huh, wow, yes, right" during conversation to indicate they are listening and involved. Men tend to listen like a wall, quietly observing until the other person finishes their statement. Being sensitive to this difference in how men and women communicate (and adapting, as appropriate) will improve communication between partners.
7. Men need you to give them private time to be left alone, to spend on hobbies and sports, and to spend time with other men. Some men need a few minutes to unwind when they walk in the door before sharing the day's challenges. Some women need this space, too, but I've noticed that most women I've dated prefer to launch into the daily review, while I'd really just like a hug, a kiss, and then some quiet space for a few minutes to unwind prior to reviewing the day together. Do what works best for your relationship. I find that a sincere and compassionately deep hug upon greeting is nice, followed by a thirty-second kiss sometime in the next few minutes, helps re-establish that "connected" feeling. Did I just say 30 second kiss? Yes, I did. Why? Because a peck kiss does nothing to establish nor maintain romance. It requires a longer kiss to do that. So, use your kissing to your advantage and keep the passion alive between you!
I remember a friend telling me about his girlfriend, how she tried to be his "Ms. Right" by becoming the woman he wanted, rather than developing some interests of her own. Perhaps, she'd be married to this man, today, had she simply had some of her own interests and creating abudant living in her own life. It can also be valuable to take time apart, once in a while, to reinforce and remind each other of your bond that hold you together. Perhaps, by not spending too much time together, one may realize why someone coined the phrase "absence makes the heart grow fonder."
Tuesday, February 15, 2005
What a day is it
Gosh, today is one of the day which I can never forget in my life
first thing was a family dispute happening for my close pal where I had to intervene and had to seek parity with less success
next thing on my work front- the news was not a bomber coz I've been anticipating this for the past 2 weeks, so it was like a well trained words spoken to me and might be they were like stunned by my cold reaction.
My reaction was cold - aint it
I think about the same situation 3+ yrs back and my reaction during that time, its like I've lived in both the extremes.
This is yet another day for me to note down in my diary and yeah it has been
first thing was a family dispute happening for my close pal where I had to intervene and had to seek parity with less success
next thing on my work front- the news was not a bomber coz I've been anticipating this for the past 2 weeks, so it was like a well trained words spoken to me and might be they were like stunned by my cold reaction.
My reaction was cold - aint it
I think about the same situation 3+ yrs back and my reaction during that time, its like I've lived in both the extremes.
This is yet another day for me to note down in my diary and yeah it has been
Tuesday, January 18, 2005
Long Lull
I'd enough rest these days and felt now the time has come for me to post my blog.
Last weekend had gone to visit my folks and had a great time there.
I'm bit confused now a days over a decision pending for quite a long time, hopefully it is resolved within next few days.
Watched the Russian movie THE CUCKKO and also the Chinese movie ZHOU YU'S TRAIN, Good ones though I felt the former was better than the latter in many a ways.
I loved the message of the latter though which is If you think something/somebody as real it will be else it is the otherway - inother words mind is the key for anything.
hmm interesting.
Of late, my philantering activities have also stopped - I guess it is time that I restart my nocturnal activities.
Thats for now from my end.
Meet u next time with further updates,
till then
CYANORA !
Last weekend had gone to visit my folks and had a great time there.
I'm bit confused now a days over a decision pending for quite a long time, hopefully it is resolved within next few days.
Watched the Russian movie THE CUCKKO and also the Chinese movie ZHOU YU'S TRAIN, Good ones though I felt the former was better than the latter in many a ways.
I loved the message of the latter though which is If you think something/somebody as real it will be else it is the otherway - inother words mind is the key for anything.
hmm interesting.
Of late, my philantering activities have also stopped - I guess it is time that I restart my nocturnal activities.
Thats for now from my end.
Meet u next time with further updates,
till then
CYANORA !
Thursday, January 06, 2005
Question echoes !
Today was fine.
Had an opportuntiy to meet up with a quite old pal and he had just returned from a relief camp at Nagapattinam.
The way he explained the current scenario there , will move even so called Iron hearted persons.
It seems that the used clothes and foods have reached in excess for relief.
But there were few questions raised by the survivours which pierces our heart.
1) the one raised by a member of well known family whose fortunes had turned upside down - Are we begging for any food , why are you throwing food packets - are we dogs which lungs forward at the sight of a food. all we seek is dignity and to be treated as a fellow human
2) this is the one that Haunts me a lot, this one was raised by a 5 year old kid who had lost all his family members - Anna, you can feed me for say 3 days or maximum for 10 days, what would be my plight from the 11th day ?
Who will take care of me ?
Who'll take care of him ? Not only him but also many other abadoned kids.
Question echoes ............
Had an opportuntiy to meet up with a quite old pal and he had just returned from a relief camp at Nagapattinam.
The way he explained the current scenario there , will move even so called Iron hearted persons.
It seems that the used clothes and foods have reached in excess for relief.
But there were few questions raised by the survivours which pierces our heart.
1) the one raised by a member of well known family whose fortunes had turned upside down - Are we begging for any food , why are you throwing food packets - are we dogs which lungs forward at the sight of a food. all we seek is dignity and to be treated as a fellow human
2) this is the one that Haunts me a lot, this one was raised by a 5 year old kid who had lost all his family members - Anna, you can feed me for say 3 days or maximum for 10 days, what would be my plight from the 11th day ?
Who will take care of me ?
Who'll take care of him ? Not only him but also many other abadoned kids.
Question echoes ............
Wednesday, January 05, 2005
Monotony
yeah that was the order of the day,
I need something to make my life interesting !
Inspite of being a dynamic personality, If I'm feeling bugged by monotony then there needs something which has to be changed.
I need not be a Sherlock Holmes to know what the problem is and how to solve it, Coz I already know what it is .
Steps are being taken and lemme wait to see how it responds.
I need something to make my life interesting !
Inspite of being a dynamic personality, If I'm feeling bugged by monotony then there needs something which has to be changed.
I need not be a Sherlock Holmes to know what the problem is and how to solve it, Coz I already know what it is .
Steps are being taken and lemme wait to see how it responds.
Tuesday, January 04, 2005
What a girl feels ?
Today was o.k by all Standards, now a days somehow feel like I'm a lonely person inspite of being surrounded by good pals.
Think 6 yrs since I started living single, for the first time I feel, I've missed my Folks, the time I can spend along with them.
Its not that I can't meet them, I know I can be with them anytime but dunno y It has taken such a long time to realise where my heart belongs.
In a male dominated society, where Guys have almost 100 % freedom and me being a guy , If I feel for the living separate from my parents, then how will a girl feel when leaving her folks aside during her marriage and we expect her to be fully devoted to her husband and the family.
As they say one the person who wears the shoe knows where it pinches, now I could feel it.
Its not that I've been a MCP these days, it is like I can very well understand what it means when u leave ur folks behind!!!
Think 6 yrs since I started living single, for the first time I feel, I've missed my Folks, the time I can spend along with them.
Its not that I can't meet them, I know I can be with them anytime but dunno y It has taken such a long time to realise where my heart belongs.
In a male dominated society, where Guys have almost 100 % freedom and me being a guy , If I feel for the living separate from my parents, then how will a girl feel when leaving her folks aside during her marriage and we expect her to be fully devoted to her husband and the family.
As they say one the person who wears the shoe knows where it pinches, now I could feel it.
Its not that I've been a MCP these days, it is like I can very well understand what it means when u leave ur folks behind!!!
Monday, January 03, 2005
Was o.k except for Thatha
Well , The New found spirit of 2005 seems to be guiding me out throught this time.
Today also was not an exception, it was a perfect day except had to face an outburst from Thatha not because of my fault but due to others .
Then slowly briefed him on the reality and the parity was restored .
But now, I've made up my mind, I will surely seek a change within a month or more.
and then had nice time with my buddies at home.
Having Fun seems to be the mantra,
Let me c till how long its useful .
Thats it today from my end.
Meet u with further updates
Today also was not an exception, it was a perfect day except had to face an outburst from Thatha not because of my fault but due to others .
Then slowly briefed him on the reality and the parity was restored .
But now, I've made up my mind, I will surely seek a change within a month or more.
and then had nice time with my buddies at home.
Having Fun seems to be the mantra,
Let me c till how long its useful .
Thats it today from my end.
Meet u with further updates
Sunday, January 02, 2005
Nice to be with Pals
This time I wanted to do it different - believe it or not , I didn't go to any movie hall this year,
and all these days I was at my place and was spending some time with pals.
It was and is nice always to be along with pals.
In a way, this Year has taken a head start for me .
It has renewed me, the original me - the fun loving Lax,
I've so many un accomplished missions / unadhered Resolutions - last year and hence this year I've taken resolution of not taking any resolutions - hehehehehe.
Beware, Lax with Free flowing spirit means Double the Trouble,
Cyanora for time being
and all these days I was at my place and was spending some time with pals.
It was and is nice always to be along with pals.
In a way, this Year has taken a head start for me .
It has renewed me, the original me - the fun loving Lax,
I've so many un accomplished missions / unadhered Resolutions - last year and hence this year I've taken resolution of not taking any resolutions - hehehehehe.
Beware, Lax with Free flowing spirit means Double the Trouble,
Cyanora for time being
Saturday, January 01, 2005
Hurrah Gre8 New start
After long time of consideration, I've decided to leave my previuos blog and it is a fresh new start.
Yeah memories might linger but as I said its time to start fresh.
God, you have been there with me all these times and whatever trouble I had in last year you have helped me to solve and most of them without pain.
I pray to you to repeat the favor this year too but not only for me but also for my Kin and Kith and also to all nice hearted soul.
Here I need to mention my special buddies,
Guardian Angel - Thanx a ton pal, U were like the rock of Gibraltor during my tough times , I'm honoured to be called as ur pal.
Nandini - I dunno if I wud have survived during my stint in Bangalore but for this kid sis, Thank a ton Nandu
Baski - But for you , who can bail me out in the last moment.
Bucks , Rajesh,Senthil, Mahesh - thank God for a Happy Reunion with these friends.
Sankar - My dear cousin and Friend if not you, who else can play my knight in shining armour.
and yeah the Most important Persons - My folks - Thanx for being there whenever I needed U!
yeah Lax kickstarts his activites - So beware of Pranks - he has mroe than a bagful -hehehehe!
Yeah memories might linger but as I said its time to start fresh.
God, you have been there with me all these times and whatever trouble I had in last year you have helped me to solve and most of them without pain.
I pray to you to repeat the favor this year too but not only for me but also for my Kin and Kith and also to all nice hearted soul.
Here I need to mention my special buddies,
Guardian Angel - Thanx a ton pal, U were like the rock of Gibraltor during my tough times , I'm honoured to be called as ur pal.
Nandini - I dunno if I wud have survived during my stint in Bangalore but for this kid sis, Thank a ton Nandu
Baski - But for you , who can bail me out in the last moment.
Bucks , Rajesh,Senthil, Mahesh - thank God for a Happy Reunion with these friends.
Sankar - My dear cousin and Friend if not you, who else can play my knight in shining armour.
and yeah the Most important Persons - My folks - Thanx for being there whenever I needed U!
yeah Lax kickstarts his activites - So beware of Pranks - he has mroe than a bagful -hehehehe!
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